[ Florian, silently, starts assembling a PowerPoint presentation inside his own head on 'How to Friendship 101'. And he breathes out. ]
We'll take it a piece at a time.
First: 'any lapse in friendship or communication was similarly my burden to bear'.
Incorrect. By that logic, any lapse in safety protocols was never yours to concern yourself with.
To tell someone that is to take away their agency to act in the situation and to insinuate that you do not believe that they care about the situation, despite any relationship being maintained from two ends.
It also, by extension, treats the relationship and communication as a 'burden', which could be seen to be implying that she thinks having a relationship with you is a burden, which can be hurtful when that isn't something she said or meant to convey. She can feel hurt and upset that you misunderstood her the same way you are hurt and upset when others misunderstand you.
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Date: 2025-04-02 04:06 pm (UTC)We'll take it a piece at a time.
First: 'any lapse in friendship or communication was similarly my burden to bear'.
Incorrect. By that logic, any lapse in safety protocols was never yours to concern yourself with.
To tell someone that is to take away their agency to act in the situation and to insinuate that you do not believe that they care about the situation, despite any relationship being maintained from two ends.
It also, by extension, treats the relationship and communication as a 'burden', which could be seen to be implying that she thinks having a relationship with you is a burden, which can be hurtful when that isn't something she said or meant to convey. She can feel hurt and upset that you misunderstood her the same way you are hurt and upset when others misunderstand you.