But by suggesting it, it implied that you hadn't understood or heard what she was harmed by.
And I think the problem is just that you're in a bit of a spiral about this.
[ He gives Thrawn a faint smile, hopefully encouraging. ]
I'm going to give you two phrases. I'd like you to use them when you find yourself stuck. The first?
"What does that look like to you in practice?"
If someone says 'I want this' or 'I'd like this' or 'I still want to keep our friendship', seek clarity on what those words mean to them in practice. You also indicate that you are interested in their priorities and listening to them while you're working through things. It will give you examples to decide if that's something that sounds like it will work for you or not.
And the second?
"Is my understanding correct?"
To be used after giving a rundown of how you view the situation, or what you think the problem is. Use it before proposing a solution.
...and feel free to use both of them multiple times.
"What would that look like in practice?" Their answer baffles you. Try and summarize. "Is my understanding correct?" If they say yes? Good. If not, prompt them for more. Then. "What does that look like in practice?" And repeat as needed.
[ He considers telling him he can shift the language a little, not to necessarily repeat them verbatim, but then he decides that's 202 and they aren't there yet. ]
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Date: 2025-04-02 08:41 pm (UTC)And I think the problem is just that you're in a bit of a spiral about this.
[ He gives Thrawn a faint smile, hopefully encouraging. ]
I'm going to give you two phrases. I'd like you to use them when you find yourself stuck. The first?
"What does that look like to you in practice?"
If someone says 'I want this' or 'I'd like this' or 'I still want to keep our friendship', seek clarity on what those words mean to them in practice. You also indicate that you are interested in their priorities and listening to them while you're working through things. It will give you examples to decide if that's something that sounds like it will work for you or not.
And the second?
"Is my understanding correct?"
To be used after giving a rundown of how you view the situation, or what you think the problem is. Use it before proposing a solution.
...and feel free to use both of them multiple times.
"What would that look like in practice?" Their answer baffles you. Try and summarize. "Is my understanding correct?" If they say yes? Good. If not, prompt them for more. Then. "What does that look like in practice?" And repeat as needed.
[ He considers telling him he can shift the language a little, not to necessarily repeat them verbatim, but then he decides that's 202 and they aren't there yet. ]
Sound reasonable?